Saving Your Marriage Single Handedly

When a marriage is failing, it always seems like only one spouse wants to do anything to save it. This doesn't mean that the other doesn't want to, it only means that they aren't showing it. Whether your spouse shows it or not, you know that you want your marriage to survive, and you believe that it can. Here are some tips to help you save your marriage single handedly.

If your spouse doesn't, then you have to make the decision for both of you. You have to really want your marriage to work, and you have to honestly believe that the two of you will stay together. You CAN save your marriage single handedly

Put it in your head that you WILL make this work. You WILL be happy again, and your marriage WILL be a strong marriage that will last forever.

This is positive thinking. A little like 'love conquers all', but you have to keep this in your own mind. if you keep telling yourself that your marriage is going to fail anyway, then it probably will. As long as you keep telling yourself that it will work out, and that you deserve to be happy again, then it will, and you will. Positive thinking brings positive changes. Just as negative thinking brings negative changes.

No one can tell your spouse what to do. But you CAN control how YOU react, and what you do. You can choose to say something that will lead to a fight, or you can choose to let it go, to avoid a fight. You have many choices, but when your marriage is in trouble, it's not always easy to make the best choices.

Talk to your spouse about what they think the problems are in your marriage. If they don't want to talk, there are ways around it. When you have time, sit quietly and imagine that you are your spouse. You have to REALLY put yourself in their shoes, for this to work. Even though you cannot read their mind, you do have a pretty good grasp on how they think.

This may be the hardest part of saving your marriage single handedly, but it will be well worth it.

Pretend that you are your spouse. What are you thinking? really put yourself in their shoes, and try to think like they do. You'll never get exactly what they're thinking, but you'll come pretty close.

Now that you can see your marriage from their side, what is going on? What is your spouse seeing? Are they seeing you always nagging at them? Or are they seeing you giving up on your marriage?

Are they seeing you as someone completely different than who they married? Or are they still seeing you as they knew you then?

When you allow yourself to see your marriage through someone else's eyes, you will be better able to solve your problems easier, even if on your own. Your spouse will notice the difference in your marriage, just as you will.

Marriage takes two. Always has, always will. But, sometimes, it only takes one to keep the marriage alive.


It's never too late - you CAN win your wife back after hard times.